Wednesday, February 29, 2012

A "Not So Good" Role Model

I have been humbled by how bad of a role model I am in many areas. We have had trouble teaching our boys to tell the truth, even when there are consequences. We tell them that it is always best to be honest, but I often am not honest myself. Every time I clean their room, I find candy wrappers in the closet, under their bed, in their garbage can. Of course, we have a no eating in your room rule as well as a restricted sweets intake per day. It seems that the more we clamp on their candy or video games, the more our boys are driven to want them more. I caught my 5 year old in his closet quietly eating candy and playing a video game on the tablet.

I find myself not being honest and most times in much bigger ways than sneaking candy into my room. To make a long story short, I was caught lying the other day and it really dawned on me just how poor of a role model I am in this area. I made a commitment to myself that going forward, I am going to be upfront and honest. It was too hypocritical to ask my boys to always be honest, when I could not do so myself.

As always, parenting often teaches us more about ourselves than about our children.